On Being a Mother

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I’m going to shift gears and have a little more insight to my non-writing life. Can’t always be immersed in plots and character sketches, right?

I have a three year old boy. Actually 3 1/2. He’s proud to say he’s almost 4. Then he will be 5, then 6. He’s my angel baby of course! I adore my son for the most part. And am irritated other times. I pulled him out of daycare a month ago. Now he hangs with us old folks who don’t want to play all the time or have time to do so. Anyhow he’s picked up some habits of late:

Calling names. Telling me he doesn’t love me anymore. (Side note: he just climbed on my back and ran off to get his stuffed animal kitty. Now wanting a piggy back ride. Kids!)

I’m back. He’s got some rude habits going on. And now I have to change these things–to teach him better ways to go about things, to learn to respect others. He needs to be taught how to act, how to treat others, and to be kind. He’s such a blank slate. I’m surprised when he just doesn’t get things, or is so off in what he says.

There is beauty in his innocence. In the way he laughs really loud when the adults make a joke and laugh. He just wants to join in. Or the way he thought he scared me this morning and laughed about it, then wanted to cuddle.

Fortunately, the weather of late has been good and we’ve gone to the park. And we have play dates with other children. He needs those times with kids to be a kid. He’s a smart little guy and mischievous too. So much energy–it must be released! He runs a lot. Sweat mats his hair.

Overall, it’s a tough job to be a parent. A full time job! He’s worth it. Mostly, my little guy is a delight. Just needs help going through his stages. I’m a proud momma.

Alone? Scared? Don’t be!

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In writing, it’s easy to hide away and lose yourself in your make-believe world. A lot of time must be spent deep in thought. I had a previous post talking about how difficult it is to venture out and join the writing community. I would like to dedicate this post to the positive reasons in stepping out and taking those chances.

The first is the feedback from fellow writers and readers. When you get stuck, you can ask people what they think, how they might suggest going forward, and advice on your work in general. They can help support you and encourage your writing. It’s also great to provide that same feedback to others, thus building a writing community.

The second reason for putting yourself out there: if you are a writer seeking publication, then your work will eventually see the light of day. By sharing it with a critique group or partner, you are taking steps to showing the world what you wrote! And that’s pretty exciting. Scary too. It prepares you for the big leagues of publishing.

Finally, it’s wonderful to have camaraderie in the writing community. It’s so beneficial to discuss writing with someone who’s eyes don’t roll in the back of their head. To chat about actual publishing, plot points, and what they think about so and so characters. For the fear I had in joining social media, I’ve met some pretty cool people who keep me motivated, who have great advice to give, and we aren’t alone in our writing.

Thank you all writers out there and keep writing! A special thanks to Amanda over at Amanda’s Nose in a Book.